The Importance of Foreplay

Foreplay is, as the word implies, playfulness before intercourse.

Therefore, it should be experienced as such - fun and spontaneous, yet enhanced by tools and techniques to stimulate arousal.

Remember, though, the deep connection between partners - not technique - is the greatest aphrodisiac. So maintain a connection to your own heart and soul with the intent of remaining connected to your partner’s heart and soul as well. Be sure to draw from imagination and spontaneity as the foundation for your tools of foreplay.

But, most important, take your time. It’s been said that women fake orgasms because men fake foreplay.

Arousing a woman is different from arousing a man. A woman needs time. Foreplay in general, should be slow and lighthearted, rather than rushed or excessively stimulating. If you rush and over stimulate a man, he can suffer premature ejaculation.

Over stimulating a woman can result in excessive excitation in her clitoris or G-spot, thus preventing the relaxation necessary for the deepest levels of orgasm.

The word foreplay has erroneously taken on the negative connotation of sexually stimulating acts for the sole purpose of achieving intercourse. In truth, foreplay can be a sensual, sexual experience in and of itself - without necessarily progressing to intercourse. Yet, foreplay can certainly be followed by intercourse. In fact, foreplay is so important that it should nearly always be a part of intercourse. Still, foreplay is not dependent upon intercourse.